Strength in Numbers



  • Carney and Sharayah's Chicken coconut curry! Sorry it's blurry, but, I was hungry! Broccolini, asparagus, red and green bell pepper, zucchini, summer squash, onion, and chicken thighs

Dinner and games!

We played a card game called “Noir.”  I had never heard of it either, but it was a great way to kill time while our curry thickened.

Disclaimer: There was a an appetizer that never made it to the pictures.  Carney removed the chicken skins and made cracklins.  Needless to say, they were delicious.



Cooking together builds bonds.  It’s easy to forget, in our fast-paced lifestyle here in the states.  In fact, our food industry is constantly inundating us with the fastness of our fast-foods, even though every time you get stuck in a drive-thru line, you wish you had just gone inside.  They forget to mention of course, just how void it is of nutrition as well.  These government “standards” of health are slowly, or not so slowly, killing us with preventable metabolic disease.  Then, they give us insulin and steroids, which make us gain weight, the only thing we want to reverse, literally the only thing that needs to happen to cure our insulin resistance and type II diabetes.  And then! They have the balls to tell us that they have our health, and best interest in mind.  It’s almost like they are pissing on our leg, and telling us it’s raining.  N’est-ce pas? Seems to me, they want big pharma and McD’s to make $$$.

Another thing that is left to the way side, besides our health as a result, is simply time with friends and family.  Time in the kitchen, talking, telling stories, smelling amazing curry cooking, is not to be underestimated.  People, especially poor people, used to spend all day cooking the most delicious food! Secretly they were building community!

Time spent cooking is regenerative, healing, exciting, and appetite-building. Moments of anticipation, especially following an 18-23 hour fast are an exercise in patience, while at the same time, it ensures you, and whomever you are with, that you will be eating delicious food. When there’s a group of people cooking and smelling the food in the kitchen, everyone gets to own it, be involved, and embrace the joy of eating a feast together.

There are other psychological benefits of cooking for others as well.  The following excerpts are quotes from the Huff Post article titled “The very real psychological benefits of cooking for others,” just to prove I’m not making this up.

“There’s a tremendous amount of confidence-boosting and self-esteem boosting, performing an act like cooking for others,” explained Julie Ohana, a licensed masters clinical social worker and culinary art therapist. “And that’s part of what lends itself to those psychological effects about being able to do something that you feel really good about.”

“…participating in an activity like that “can help to encourage a sense of trust, community, meaning, purpose, belonging, closeness, and intimacy. ― all of which have been linked to things like increased happiness, decreased depression, and greater/more positive overall wellbeing,”…explained Matthew Riccio, National Science Foundation Graduate Research Fellow.”


“It’s a very intimate activity. And providing them with something that they potentially need, you’re really showing them that they have your support, your love, your backing, and that’s the kind of thing that really, really promotes well being, positive growth and closeness within relationships,” elaborated Riccio.


Don’t forget that cooking is a form of self-care as well, as the article mentions. All too often, we slam a few pieces of lunch meat and cheese and call that lunch. Especially if you are a busy person, taking the time to cook yourself lunch for the following day, can help teach yourself that you are loved by…you. Spend time to make yourself something that you won’t just tolerate, but will be excited to break your fast for.

Finding community of like-minded people is hugely helpful.  So many times we focus on the haters, how to deal with people that aren’t supportive, don’t understand etc.  I’ve even been accused of being anorexic. lol.  As if they can’t see my gut.  But imagine for a second that you are surrounded by people that eat the way you do, that support your process, your psychological difficulties with getting started, and support your trying to better your health and your life.  Make it happen.  Make new friends, like we have! Eat keto with them.  Make dinner for your non-keto friends as well!  How many friends of yours would turn down dinner, if you offered?  You don’t have to announce that it’s keto. Making friends with Carney and Sharayah is the best, so if you are in ABQ, I suggest it! They might even make you chicken curry! Friends who keto together, get fit together, straight up.

A few of you have expressed the anxiety or fear of overeating at a dinner party. But, there is a simple fix. I also am afraid of eating the whole world at dinner parties, especially around cheese and crackers before the meal. There are two good ways to calm yourself. Instead of the standard advice of avoid the food table, (which in my humble opinion, is just penance for our fatness) just eat what’s keto. Get that cheese! Leave the crackers. Better yet, bring keto flax crackers (they are two ingredients!) Or, go to a keto dinner party. Fast all day leading up to it! Go to a dinner party hungry. Why are you going to a dinner party and obsessing about not eating? How rude. We fat people are going about it the wrooooong way. Be hungry all day, until you GET to the dinner party. EAT! Feel normal, and eat good food. I’ve said it before, but eating with friends makes good food great, and great food, lifelong memories. Thank you Michael and Sharayah for hosting us, and cooking with/for us. Will too!

Chuch, Happy Eating,






Ravel’s 5 Greek Songs with Gérard Souzay singing, and Dalton Baldwing at the keys.

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